Tuesday, October 14, 2008

More decisions

Not much exciting going on around here! ;)
We're trying to get into the new routine with South Davis. I've decided that I can't go up every day to see Elaina, as much as it breaks my heart. There are several reasons for this, one being that I've been spending approximately $400 a month in gas, and I just can't afford it any more. South Davis is in Bountiful which is actually further north than Primary Children's, and adds an additional 10 minutes each direction to my commute. Another reason is that I really feel like I need to take some extra time with Ben. It's been so hard on him to not have me home after school every day, and to have me get home so late every night. Most nights I get home between 7:30 and 8:00, which is so super close to bedtime. I spend all morning with him, but no time after school. All my morning time is also shared with working, so I'm not able to give him my full attention. Once he leaves for kindergarten, I've been heading up to see Elaina and spend the afternoons with her. I get there around 2:00 and stay until 6:30 and then head home. This schedule is getting more and more difficult for me to handle. It seems like everything else that I need to get done is being pushed aside so that I can spend (split!) time with my kids. I'm not able to keep up on laundry, grocery shopping, and other household chores as well as I'd like. I feel like such a slacker sometimes. So, now that I've listed all my reasons, I've decided to stay home 2 days a week to see if I can get back on top of everything. In a perfect world, I'd have a maid that would come and clean for me and I'd send my laundry out (or have unlimited $$ to just buy new clothes all the time!) and have all my groceries delivered to my door. Oh well, this is just for a short time, it won't be forever. That's because I've made another decision as well! I currently rent my home, and my contract ends at the end of December. So, I've decided to re-locate up to Bountiful. It will be hard on Ben to change schools, but in the long run it will be for the best. If I'm 5-10 minutes away from Elaina, I can visit her while Ben is in school and then go back later in the evening with him for another visit. I should be able to manage my time a little better if I don't have have a 2 hour commute added to my daily routine. Not to mention the gas expense. I'm glad the prices are coming down, but it's still a lot of money every week. I'll be able to look around town on my visits, especially when I take Ben with me on Saturday's and don't have to worry about hurrying home. Moving isn't something that I like to do, and I've done it too many times recently - 6 times in the last 6 years!! Hopefully I'll be able to find someplace that we can stay for a long, long time!

Elaina is doing really well. She's adjusting well to South Davis and seems to like it there. The nurses are falling in love with her, and have lots of fun dressing her up and playing with her when I'm not there. She's still been having problems with throwing up stomach acid, but I don't know if we'll ever not have that be a problem. They adjusted her reflux meds again today, so hopefully that will help to control it a little bit. Her nurse told me today that she rolled from her back onto her side! WOW! She must be feeling better! She's still getting out of her no-no's, but they have her NJ taped better so she's mostly just pulling out her oxygen. They moved her into a different room this weekend. She's so quiet that they couldn't hear her cry, so they moved her into a room that is much closer to the main nurses station. She still has a window, but it looks onto a covered patio so she doesn't get direct sun anymore. She also has a room mate, so there isn't as much privacy as we're used to. That's okay though, we had shared rooms in the PICU so it's nothing new. I'm planning on taking some pictures when I visit tomorrow. I went to Wal-Mart (first time in months!) tonight and got her some cute new clothes. She's growing so fast, she's outgrown most of the clothes that I have for her now. I just HAD to go shopping and buy some new stuff. Thank goodness for Wal-Mart! :)


The Portas said...

I wish I lived closer, I'd come be your maid in my spare time and help out where I could. You do so much! I cannot imagine trying to split time between two kids AND do everything else. You are amazing!

I'm glad you are making good changes to make everything easier in your life. We will pray that everything goes smoothly for all of you. Take care! Can't wait for more pics of the cutie! xoxoxo

Stephanie said...

Oh, moving really sucks! But sounds like a great idea for you. I'm glad to hear how well Elaina is doing.

Tina:0) said...

Good luck with the relocating... I can't imagine trying to look for a place in the midst of all you're doing! I'm sure the change will be a little rough on Ben, but at the same time, nicer because his Momma will be there so much more! Sounds like a nice compromise for everyone!

Glad the Elaina is adjusting well. How could anyone not fall in love with her... she's just too cute!

Christina said...

While moving is hard, being closer to Elaina will be wonderful. Please let me know if you need help packing or anything!

hugs & prayers,
Jacob's momma

The Curtis Family said...

Make sure to look in Woods Cross as well (that's where we live). It's generally cheaper than Bountiful and it's very close (just west of Bountiful). I'll keep my eyes open for you as I run errands. What are you looking for?

---Allison (Ethan's mom) IHH

Bethany said...

The move will be such a good thing! Make sure you let us know when you're doing the official move, so Joel and I can help out.

Kathy said...

Oh girl...you need a clone!
That all just stinks.
Just tell Ben that you're going to homeschool him this year...and you'll have classes in Elaina's room each day. GOSH...that has to be SO hard. I know that if we were at Stanford any longer, we were going to get a tiny condo up there and just all move. It is too hard. The big kids try to understand...but, you're not there to help them.
Good luck.
kiss those cutie pies for me!

carolyn q said...

I know it will be hard to move, but at the same time it seems like it will be so much better with trying to manage it all. ..which by the way you have done an impressive job to date :0).
Please let us know once you find a place and have a date to move because Scott and I will do what we can to help you.
Until you move, the offer is still good about Ben staying over too!

Vanessa said...

I know it's been hard on you the past few months. I think the move is a good thing. You'll be able to spend more time with Elaina and so will Ben. I'm sure he'll make new friends just fine. I wish we lived closer so we could help out. Your such an amazing woman.

Looking forward to seeing some more pictures!

Gourley Fam said...

I also wish I lived closer. I would also like two more hours in the day or at least one more weekend-day in the week. A maid sounds nice, and a personal shopper sounds better. Can I add a personal chef to the list of wants because I know it would make my life easier and especially yours! That will be good to live closer, and coming from a gal that moved a LOT as a child, Ben is a sweet boy and I know will make friends quickly.
Missing seeing you guys but are happy that this is better arrangement!
Heart hugs,

Anderson Family said...

Moving sounds like a great idea to help you with your sanity. What an amazing woman you are to be able to do all you do in a day. Please let us know if you need help moving - that will be a big project. Elaina is looking so cute! Good luck with finding a place close to Bountiful!

Kristi Anderson (Carter's Mom)